I had to think about this a while this morning as I have heard it from several top speakers before. Some of the most admired people who have ever lived were people who added value to others lives. Great inventors, healers, humanitarians, artist. They are all the people who are admired an loved. Now there are people who are remembered for great feats like Napoleon or Nero but they were not loved for adding great value to humanity as much as for great feats of destruction.
The man who sleeps well in his bed without fear is the one who is protected by those who love him not by those who fear him. Tony has it right here. Add value to others and you will be loved, cared for, and paid well.